Thursday, March 29th, 2012...9:59 am
As human beings, we have a fundamental and inherent need to experience love. Whether it manifests itself as an unconscious desire to have others like and accept us (and so our behaviour becomes motivated by this need); or an deliberate drive to experience love through our relationships, the truth is….we all seek love.
Never before in the history of the universe have we recognized this universal truth – that love originates within us. It is in experiencing love as something that we create from within … that we can feel LOVE. The action of being love (sharing love with others) is another form of the expression of LOVE. Third and finally, we have the ability to feel the energy of love that comes to us from another.
Even if we do not feel love for ourself , or deserving of others’ love; we are able to both experience love and express it openly with others. This is what makes our nature as loving beings so incredible.
We are awakening to the realization that we are capable of expressing love because LOVE is our inherent nature.
In fact, a UNIVERSAL PURPOSE of life is to be unconditionally loving.
In LOVE Relationships:
LOVE is both experienced as a feeling and a state of being. We experience our self in a love relationship and feel a sense of validation; inspiration; elation; and purpose. Historically, social and cultural conditioning teaches us that we are special and important when we have “found” love (simultaneously making it less desirable and fulfilling to be single). Society still perpetuates the idea that a couple relationship is one of the ultimate goals in life, since it offers validation that we are indeed lovable.
In actuality, we are born worthy of love. If we at some point later in life we believe anything else it is because we have been “taught” that we are somehow “not good enough” (unfortunately, this is one of the most common ‘negative’ core beliefs humans possess).
If our love relationship should come to an end; in most situations, rather than take a breath, step back, reflect on what we’ve learned, rediscover our SELF and seek to work through old issues and fears – we immediately begin looking for a new person to love us.
In this perpetuating cycle, we fail to discover (and also model for our children) the notion that our need to be loved drives our desire to: be in a relationship; our life choices, and even aspects of our character.
Despite the incorrect messages that bombard us to seek love in relationships with others; consider the truth of love’s origin.
“We are both beings of love and at the same time – seekers of love.”
It is in being LOVE that we are an incredible magnet, drawing others to us and building a framework of beautiful relationships, new friendships and a life mate. We have been taught to seek love without learning how to be it first. We have been given the wrong messaging that falling in love will ‘complete’ us.
“Falling” in love is inevitable. As soon as you allow your natural tendency as love to shine through; like a lighthouse beacon - you make it easily possible for others to find the beauty and grace within you.
In your experience of love in its purest form, there is nothing that you require; nothing that you need in return; nor expect from another. Love in this form is unconditional in its giving. This is the type of love we give and receive most easiest when we are being our highest self; our Spirit.
We understand Spirit best in the context of energy – universal consciousness - infinite divine wisdom and of course ’God’. To be god-like is to be our inherent blissful nature uninhibited by the mind’s ego. To experience our Self in this divine state we exude love easily. Not only can we easily be loving with others but our divine nature fills us with love.
When we are unconditional in our delivery and giving of love; it is because we are not dependent on anyone to love us in order to feel worthy, validated, purposeful.
The greatest and most worldly blessing any human can realize is their own divine potential – and their infinite nature of being love.
There are a few ways in which we can cultivate a state of unconditional love much more of the time. We can remain present to life and live from a place of present moment awareness (this allows us to live from our heart rather than from our critical mind).
Pursuing our innate (god-given) talents and gifts fulfills us; and this is a heart chakra quality. When we are simply doing whatever we most love (which is also by the way what we are already talented in), there is no differentiation between Self and doing. We become the very gift that we are blessed with being able to give. To share this talent with others only reinforces the perfect nature of our Self.
We can also begin a spiritual practice – a journey into the Self through the experience of our self as oneness with a divine universal consciousness. This can be contemplated within the context of exploring Self in therapy, through a guided or self-directed spiritual practice, or with a mentor or spiritual teacher. Remember that any spiritual practice if done with authenticity will promote inner work and a discovery of who our Self is.
Those who have convinced themselves that they are worthy only as they have someone to love them; will forever be chasing the idea of love and the fairy tale image that their mind reinforces.
This idea of finding love to feel loved can never be completely fulfilling because each one of us needs to ultimately love who we are first. Love originates in our heart.
Consider experiencing yourself and your feeling of love here; in the center of your chest. Expand this awareness by breathing with inward intention. As you practice expanding your feelings of love from within it becomes second nature. You feel the experience of love first within and as it expands and “fills” you – it becomes easy to share it with others. This is you being love.