Monday, June 27th, 2011...3:17 pm
In a perfect world there is the integrity of kind words and actions.
There is hope and the mindful blessings that occur when one is easily kind and compassionate.
And there is truth.
Much can be done to live kindly and with loving action. But without truth you become easily lost. Without truth your lies, secrets, ommissions, and distractions serve to convince others of who you say you are trying to become.
Without self-honesty and a willingness to admit your truth, you become ever so quietly mired in the lies and misguided statements you tell yourself (and others). Without truth you have nothing.
I listen to clients and others talk about their lives and I can sense when they are being self-honest …. and when they are trying to convince themelves of their lies. The two sound very different. As a therapist my job is to ask socratic questions which allow clients to see the events of their lives – and the way they view themelves and the world…differently. I am also known to challenge clients – encouraging them to live in their truth.
With honesty a person is willing to look at their self even when what they admit is painful, embarassing, or self loathing in nature.
With self-honesty there is a real awakening – as if revealing what is true in and of itself begins the process of healing, transformation, and discovery.
The act of conscious awareness, ownership, and self-integrity means that you can look ahead to what changes you seek; and how you want to be.
When you don’t ‘live in your truth’ your web of lies becomes unbearable to manage. After a time you begin to falter because - after all – the deliberate act of maintaining “untruths” is both time consuming and mentally fatiguing. You suffer in all aspects of your personal and professional life and you are inhibited from true change – from growth - and from having the kind of life that you really want.
Ask yourself if your willingness to hide the truth is really worth it. Ask how much more of your life quality are you willing to sacrifice for what you have set up to believe in your mind. For no matter how good you become at ‘lie telling’, your body, your DNA and molecular structure – your inner self …knows the truth.
The inconsistency between the tales you spin and what your inner consciousness knows keeps you locked in anxiety, fear, depression and above all else – your true self.
When are you willing to stop hiding? When do you begin to live truthfully?