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Q:
All my friends have had sex yet except for me. I just feel left out when they talk about it all the time. Sometimes I feel like I should sleep with he next guy I meet just to feel equal to my friends. Is this normal? When will my time come?

A:
It's completely normal to feel left out when most everyone around you is having sex.....and talking about it. Having sex out of a need to belong rather than staying true to what is right for you won't make you feel good about yourself. Decide what your personal beliefs are around sex and don't settle for anything less. Choose the right time when you feel ready rather than be pressured into making the wrong decision.




Q:
I think my mom wants to divorce my dad. They are constantly fighting, and she always says she is going to leave him. Is there anything I can do to keep them together?

A:
It's ultimately up to your mom and dad to save their relationship. You're not alone! So many children (of all ages) want to do anything they can to help their parents stay together. Just the fact that there are children involved makes it much more difficult for a couple to end their marriage. You can encourage your parents to see a professional therapist, (for individual as well as couple sessions). You may even feel it is helpful to talk to a professional therapist or a counselor at school if it feels like too much to handle on your own. Most important -- remember that both of your parents love you despite the outcome of their own relationship.




Q:
I am a little over weight and am very subconscious of it. This semester I have gym class and I feel as if every girl in the change room is talking about me. I can't ignore their stares and whispers. I have tried dieting but it just makes me want to eat more and I have grown fond of my pudge. What can I do to get their whispers out of my head?

A:
This is where you need to rely on your inner strength. Girls can be the biggest critics among their own gender and you can be sure that whispering and staring happens to every girl for one reason or another. It's something that I'd like to think that as we become grown women, we "grow out of" but that isn't always the case. Remind yourself to stay focused on why you are there - which is to learn different sports and to have fun! Do your best to carry yourself tall nd proud and smile when others look over at you. Smiling makes you friendly and warm in appearance, and it becomes far more difficult for others to be unkind when you are giving them kindness.




Q:
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and I think I love him. I am leaving for university in the fall but don't know if I should go to the same school that he is attending, if we should break up or if we should try long distance. I don't want to lose him - he is my best friend so what should I do?

A:
Make your decision regarding university based on what's best for you academically. Having a conversation with your boyfriend about what you both would like to do regarding your relationship may very well mean that you two continue to be 'a couple' (and see each other as often as you can if at different schools). If he is already your best friend, staying in touch (albeit you will miss each other), will be possible. If you make your decision based on what's best for you, then you won't have any regrets regardless of what happens in your relationship.