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Q:
My best friend is totally in love with Jake Gyllenhaal. I mean I think she's gone off the deep end. His name is all over her stuff, when we go out and she sees other guys she's like, "There's no way he'd be better than Jake," so she doesn't give them a chance. She says the only guy she'll date is Jake, and that she's "saving" herself for him. I think she means it! Should I be worried about her?

A:
The answer is no, not to worry. This too will pass.




Q:
My friend is on the South Beach diet. I guess she's lost a few pounds, but I think it's really because she's starting to take better care of herself in general. I mean she works out, gets enough sleep, is eating better, which is great. But, the problem is, every time I go to eat something, she'll comment like, "That's a really bad carbohydrate," or "there's a lot of fat in that." I don't want to make her feel bad, but I'm not overweight and I don't watch my weight so I don't appreciate her constantly watching what I eat. How do I get her to stop counting MY calories?

A:
You just ask. Remind your friend what a great job she's done but politely let her know how it feels when she watches and comments (a little too closely) on what you're eating.




Q:
I think my older sister tries too hard to please her boyfriends. One liked long hair so she got extensions (expensive!), one liked her in skirts and that's all she wore for three months (during winter). Her latest boyfriend mentioned he likes English accents and now she goes around talking with one (a really bad one!). I think she's losing her own identity but I don't know how to tell her. Help.

A:
Your older sister isn't losing her identity as much as not really having a solid one to stand ground on. Gently voice your concerns. You might ask her to think about whether she actually felt better changing who she was to accommodate someone else. In the end, the best thing she could do is work on figuring out who she is (her likes, dislikes, strengths, talents, etc) so that she can work on being more of her own self - and of course liking who that is!




Q:
I am so crushing on my teacher. When I'm in his class I can barely concentrate. I pretend I'm having trouble understanding stuff just so I can go up to him after class and talk to him. He's never shown any interest in me, but I can't get him off of my mind. I know this can't go anywhere, but how do I forget about him when I see him constantly?

A:
You may not be able to forget him, but remind yourself that this is simply a crush. Do your best to stay focused. Channel your 'crush' into inspiration to learn -- and to do well in his class.




Q:
I think my boyfriend has a gambling problem. He bets on everything. He gets his older brother to buy him ProLine tickets, he plays poker all the time, he bets on school games, once he wanted to bet me on the day I'd have my period! I don't think he's in debt or anything because he actually wins a lot of the time, but I think it's getting out of control. What should I do?

A:
There are specific criteria to determine if someone actually has a gambling problem. If your boyfriend's behavior fits this profile, you may obviously want to express your concerns to him. While you can't make him stop gambling, you can decide whether his behavior (assuming he continues) will be 'ok' with you. Here are some sites to check out to help you assess the situation: